10 Toxic Thoughts You Need to Drop for a Better Life.

“We are all vulnerable,” says Coach Eric Taylor (Kyle Chandler) after a life-changing accident in the pilot of Friday Night Lights. “And we will all, at some point in our lives, fall. We will all fall. We must carry this in our hearts, that what we have is special; that it can be taken from us; and when it is taken from us, we will be tested.”

It’s a tremendously moving speech, in part because it doesn’t soften the reality of what happened. Coach Taylor is able to change the lives of his players because he thinks realistically. Sometimes his truths are positive and uplifting; sometimes they’re bracingly honest. But either way, they’re able to break through the lies that are keeping his players from reaching their full potential, as players and as people. We need to think both honestly and hopefully in order to confront the lies that hinder us. The following are 10 of the most common lies and the truths that can best counter them.

10. “No One Loves Me”

British indie band The Smiths had a pop hit in the 1980s with their song, “Last Night I Dreamt that Somebody Loved Me.” At one point we’ve all wondered whether anyone really cares about us. But when we begin to imagine that people are snubbing or ignoring us, we can find evidence of their disdain everywhere. This creates a self-perpetuating cycle. The more we resent others for supposedly not caring, the less willing we are to invest in relationships; the less likely they are to care. Ultimately we lose out on friendships, not because we were unlovable, but because we thought we were.