A nurse working in palliative care published a blog about her patients’ remorse on their deathbeds. Upon asking them if they have anything they wished they could change in their lives, patients talk about typical stuffs like friendship, family, dream, jobs, and so on… Being a witness of her patients’ grief for three to twelve weeks before they passed away, the nurse further described her experiences and realizations as she interacted with her patients:
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
She listed top five things dying patients commonly regret before they die. Here are the things they’d wish they could change in their lives:
Having courage instead of fear. They regret not having made their dreams come true before they approach death. They realized that they let others’ expectations get the better of them, until they were no longer capable of making it happen.
Not working as hard.Mostly coming from the male patients, they realized that they would’ve had much happier, simpler life. More time might have been spent with their family hadn’t they got too preoccupied on yearning for a higher income than what they actually need.
Speaking their mind.If they’ve had the courage to express their feelings, they would’ve lived a life truer to themselves. Consequently, a majority of patients developed ailments associated with anger and resentment upon supressing their feelings. They realized that they should’ve been more honest and transparent.